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miss maggie ([personal profile] bossymarmalade) wrote2010-10-12 10:06 am

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Dear Yoko Ono:

You shouldn't even be here.

But since you are, and at the time when the man you wanted to spend the rest of your life with would have turned seventy years old --

I guess they thought you couldn't carry your own story, the one that began with you surviving the bombing of Tokyo and continued with you becoming the first woman accepted into the philosophy department of Gakushuin University. Maybe it didn't make you three-dimensional enough that you studied music and art at Sarah Lawrence with a special interest in the avant-garde and audience participation, that you had sex with who you wanted when you wanted and had abortions and miscarriages. Maybe to them you represent an idea of a weird dragon lady with careful accented English and inscrutable slanted eyes and wild harionago hair.

I know you didn't make it onto the chart because they think you don't have any flaws.

So you're not a villain, but you, an artist and a woman long long before Johnny and Paulie went on a magical mystery tour, you are mainly a love interest. They at least know you're not only interested in your man and only disapprove of his actions from time to time, but it's easy to assume that May Pang (another unimportant possibly fictional Asian woman) never existed, that you never sent John off to have his lost weekend and recover from all the alcohol and heroin before you let him come back to you.

You're not an action heroine. Hunting down the daughter who was stolen away by your ex-husband, facing down headlines like "John Rennon's Excrusive Gloupie" and the constant death-threats and racialized insults, enduring the deep freeze from the rest of the Beatles during those tense White Album sessions because John would only go if you promised to go with him, those don't qualify you.

Do others like her?

Oh, Yoko, surely that's the damning stroke, because who could like you? A nation full of white people enraged that you stole away their Liverpudlian poet son, a world full of people enraged that you, single-handedly, YOU caused the end of the fabbest four, an unending stream of people who still call you ugly and shrill and a bitch, who say that those bullets should have found their way into your body that night and not that man who you loved and who you watched be gunned down and lost. How dare you think that you and your son have any right to decide how to remember John? Don't you know he belongs to the world, and not you who taught him to love and respect women, not you who took care of the business so he could stay home to feed the cats and rock the baby and bake the bread when he wanted to do that most of all? Do others like you?

No, the chart says, and so you're Yoko Ono.

Dear Yoko: I'd say fuck them, but you were in a bag in a hotel room decidedly *not* losing your shit at assholes attacking you for being a strong Asian woman since before I was born, so instead I'll say: It's bullshit that you're on this godawful chart at all, but I'd still be happy to find myself landing on your name at the end of it.


http://www.recmusicbeatles.com/public/files/bbs/jl_yo.playboy/interview.html
http://thecurvature.com/2008/12/15/yoko-ono-a-feminist-analysis-introduction-oh-yoko/
http://imaginepeace.com/archives/5576
http://www.lorainesammy.com/v2/2010/10/may-pang-and-yoko-ono/
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[personal profile] liabrown 2010-10-13 07:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Well done.

[identity profile] rm.livejournal.com 2010-10-13 07:26 pm (UTC)(link)
It is horrible that this needed to be written, but this is glorious.
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[personal profile] uisdanna 2010-10-13 07:54 pm (UTC)(link)
"It's bullshit that you're on this godawful chart at all, but I'd still be happy to find myself landing on your name at the end of it."

there with ya

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[personal profile] grey_gazania 2010-10-13 07:59 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you so much for this.

[personal profile] bigbrasskey 2010-10-13 08:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you so much.
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[personal profile] thedoctor 2010-10-13 11:02 pm (UTC)(link)
This post is amazing. Thank you for writing it and sharing it.
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[personal profile] himhilien 2010-10-14 03:11 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you for this post. Thank you.
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[personal profile] makamu 2010-10-14 09:05 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you for this post. It helped me get away from the "Yoko broke up the Beatles" myth to which I somewhat unthinkingly subscribed until this post (so much for trying to realise my privilege!). Thank you very much
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[personal profile] pulchritude 2010-10-14 09:37 am (UTC)(link)
Yes, yes. Lovely post ♥
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[personal profile] satu 2010-10-14 09:42 am (UTC)(link)
I think I love you.
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[personal profile] spiralsheep 2010-10-14 12:53 pm (UTC)(link)
Thank you for this post. (I linked to it and then realised I'd forgotten to comment. Ooops!)
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[personal profile] ciderpress 2010-10-14 03:59 pm (UTC)(link)
YES FOREVER. Thank you for sharing this, Maggie!
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[identity profile] sunnyrea.livejournal.com 2010-10-14 05:25 pm (UTC)(link)
SO MUCH LOVE ALL OVER THIS!!!

And as a Beatles fan I can say, Yoko we love you and we loved you and John together and we love you still!

Just want to kick that chart in the teeth!
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[personal profile] leanwellback 2010-10-15 02:08 am (UTC)(link)
I love you so much for posting this. Just. Yes. Thank you.
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[personal profile] scintilla10 2010-10-15 02:24 am (UTC)(link)
This is an incredible post. Thank you so so much for writing it.

[personal profile] rubyfruit 2010-10-15 07:33 am (UTC)(link)
This post gets a standing fucking ovation from me.

That flowchart gets nothing from me at all. Except a headdesk. Now, if you'll excuse me, I'll toddle off and write fic now!
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[personal profile] fizzyblogic 2010-10-15 01:49 pm (UTC)(link)
I automatically like people who like Yoko Ono. FACT. I automatically squint suspiciously at people who don't. ALSO FACT. And then explain why she is wonderful. And DID NOT BREAK UP THE BEATLES CAN WE PLEASE STOP THAT BULLSHIT NOW?
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[personal profile] soc_puppet 2010-10-15 07:43 pm (UTC)(link)
This is an absolutely amazing post. Would you mind if I linked it elsewhere?

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[personal profile] stultiloquentia 2010-10-16 03:16 pm (UTC)(link)
Love this.
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[personal profile] windowsilver 2010-10-17 07:03 am (UTC)(link)
Thank you for writing this.
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[personal profile] nicole_anell 2010-10-17 05:37 pm (UTC)(link)
Holy shit, this post is amazing.
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[personal profile] auroraprimavera 2010-10-18 02:04 pm (UTC)(link)
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[personal profile] chaobell 2010-10-18 09:19 pm (UTC)(link)
This post is awesome. That chart is just fail heaped upon fail heaped upon fail, but the use of a real live person was just--no, no, NO.
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[personal profile] reddwarfer 2010-10-18 09:22 pm (UTC)(link)
So much ♥
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[personal profile] madelf 2010-10-20 06:17 am (UTC)(link)
Just came across this post, but hell to the freaking yes. Yoko is an amazing woman, and the people who made that chart would be lucky if they managed to be even half as impressive.

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