don't tell mama what mama don't like!!

[bossymarmalade]

[ 14 Valentines - Day 5: Sexuality ]

I will be answering each and every comment you lovely, smart people have been leaving me, but bear with me because it might take a little while!

For today's theme, I was considering a whole post about why "asexual" is a valid choice and how choosing to wait to have sex is often just as fraught a subject for women as choosing to have plenty of sex, but to be honest I am tired and pretty much just said everything I wanted to, so instead,


Please right-click-download and enjoy!


avenue d - do i look like a slut?: trashy, insane electroclash with a healthy dose of humour.

be good tanyas - the lakes of pontchartrain: I included songs like this that originally were written for a male singer; the job they do with this Louisiana ballad is lovely.

bessie smith - empty bed blues: long before Madonna and whoever else started singing about sex, the ladies of blues were rolling out laid-back, funny, and hot songs like this.

betty hutton - hit the road to dreamland: she woos him, she cajoles him ... then she boots him out in the morning.

blondie - call me: any time, any place, any where, any way!

britney spears - do somethin': there was, like, this twenty-minute window where Britney decided she was a grown-up woman and owned her grown-up sexuality, dropping the coy babygirl act. This song was at the height of it. Naturally, the album (and her new adult image) tanked.

buffy - under your spell: Tara's song to Willow, of course.

cansei de ser sexy - music is my hot hot sex: yes, that song from the Mac ads! But it's awesome.

christina aguilera - dirrty: God, do you remember how much everybody slagged on Christina when she made this song & video? And how they'd bleep ridiculous things like "makes my cherry pop" in Candyman? Man, people suck. And Christina's wonderful.

cyndi lauper - i drove all night: this is how far Cyndi will go for a booty call.

dolly parton - harper valley pta: it's getting so a woman can't even wear a short skirt in peace anymore!

dusty springfield - son of a preacher man: wouldn't we all like to deflower delicious preacher's sons?

edith piaf - mon légionnaire: if you don't speak French, read the English translation and it'll explain why this song's in this list.

emmylou harris - magdalene laundries: this is a Joni Mitchell song, but Emmylou's version is brilliant at being full of rage underneath that haunting voice.

frankee - fuck you right back: if you've heard the Eamonn song "Fuck You", well -- this one's better.

imani coppola - legend of a cowgirl: I love this song so much. It's sassy, it's fun, it's fast.

lucille bogan - shave 'em dry: I put this one up all the time. Vintage raunch for the win!

missy elliot - work it: and Lucille's present-day successor!

norah jones - turn me on: imperious, languid commands to turn her on. Sweet.

peaches - two guys: and speaking of imperious commands, Peaches wants two guys to get it on for her delectation. I'm sure many of us can relate.

queen latifah - big, blonde and beautiful: from Hairspray, and every bit awesome.

regina spektor - chelsea hotel: a very excellent rendition of the Leonard Cohen song.

sarah vaughn - whatever lola wants: ... and you know what Lola wants, right?

scandal - the warrior: love is a battlefield! Or something to that effect.

sinéad o'connor - daddy i'm fine: I love the rocking, bold way she owns her sexuality in this.

skunk anansie - secretly: the tangled, racing lust of an ill-advised affair.

the bangles - in your room: breaking and entering is okay if it's to get jiggy!

the pointer sisters - fire: it's a little bit yes-means-no, but sexuality comes in many mutually-consensual flavours, oui?

the rocky horror picture show - toucha toucha toucha touch me: if you haven't heard this song or seen this movie, your teenage years were sadly bereft.

the runaways - cherry bomb: wild girls! teenage rebellion! yah-hoo!

the simpsons - we put the spring: I figured a song about a bordello belonged on this list.

t.v. carpio - i wanna hold your hand: from Across the Universe; I love this version, all dreamy and yearning.

ute lemper - die ballade von der sexuallen horigkeit: okay, I confess -- I only stuck this in here because it has "sexuallen" in the title. hee!

Comments

[inlovewithnight.livejournal.com]

(Wandering by off friendsfriends)

Oooh, a female singer covering "Fire"! Excellent. It's a Springsteen song, and I've always been a little ambivalent about it, how he sells it so straight-up and innocently when the lyrics are so...eyebrow-raising if you really listen to them. /ramble

Thanks for sharing these!

[queenofhell.livejournal.com]

Ooh, thanks for this. I grabbed a bunch.

[cunningplan.livejournal.com]

You posted the Be Good Tanyas! *<3s you muchly* Have you heard their cover of "When Doves Cry"? Mwah! I love them sooo much. Also, do you know the Wailin' Jennys? Another awesome Canadian all-girl folk band...

[callsigns.livejournal.com]

I'm enjoying and learning from these posts more than I can say. Thank you for them!

[mumblemutter.livejournal.com]

oooh awesome. i sometimes wish more people posted and/or listened to stuff by women. it's as if half the folks i know only listen to men.

...which is probably true. and makes me sad.

cm

[indirajames.livejournal.com]

it's as if half the folks i know only listen to men.

Me too. :(

But mainly I wanted to say, that icon is so pretty.

[mumblemutter.livejournal.com]

i love her! she is so made of win.

[indirajames.livejournal.com]

Oh yes. I love this post! I want to hug this post. I think everyone should make posts like this, but they can't, because this is the best one. I'm downloading many, thank you!

[littlerhymes]

Awesome songs! Downloading a few, thank you. :)

[copracat]

Oh, Betty Hutton, what a woman.

Fantastic list.

[robanybody.livejournal.com]

Harper Valley PTA! Oh, you win just for that. Thank you for the music. ♥

[geneli4.livejournal.com]

so many of my favorites all in one place! thank you!

[violetisblue.livejournal.com]

The last one is "The Ballad of Sexual Dependency" and is all about women manipulating men who think with their dicks, so...fairly appropriate. :-)

[graycastle.livejournal.com]

what a great list, thank you - I'm downloading a bunch of these. :D

[tammylee.livejournal.com]

Ooh! I shall be d/l tonight!

..why "asexual" is a valid choice and how choosing to wait to have sex is often just as fraught a subject for women as choosing to have plenty of sex...

Right on! I can't believe how much flak I get for that sometimes.

[armistice.livejournal.com]

I downloaded a bunch.

And I the first time I heard "Fuck You Right Back" was when it was being performed by a drag queen during my sister's bachelorette party. It was amazing.

[armistice.livejournal.com]

I meant to say, "Thank you," also.

[blacksquirrel.livejournal.com]

Cool - thanks!

I love so many of these. You've nailed why I adore that Nora Jones song - she so effortlessly combines a very frank sexuality with a sweet, smooth, kind attitude toward the world and her relationship, which is partly the words, but also a lot to do with her masterful delivery. Completely unapologetic and wonderfully humane. Excellent

[redangel618.livejournal.com]

came here by way of 14valentines. this is an awesome list and one i'll be passing on to friends. thanks muchly!

[zarahemla.livejournal.com]

Ooh, <3 that Sinead song. And hee hee, the Springfield bordello song. Like Marge says, "Sleazy entertainment and raunchy jokes will never be as popular as
sobriety and self-denial!"

[leksa.livejournal.com]

Man, that cover of "I Wanna Hold Your Hand" makes me go all twisty inside. Awesome. (I downloaded a whole bunch, thank you so so much. Also thank you for the other posts you've been making the last few days!)

[melannen.livejournal.com]

Wandering in from 14valentines, and ooh, thank you! these are awesome!

(Also agree with the post about sexuality that you didn't make.)

[http://users.livejournal.com/_ducks/]

Am downloading almost all of these. Thanks!

I've been reading your other valentines posts as well, and I don't think I've said, but both the posts themselves and the comments have been very thought-provoking and interesting. And eye-opening, and maddening, in the way that I need my eyes opening, because there's still so much I'm not aware of. So thank you for that as well.

[neverbeen2spain.livejournal.com]

I love this post. I may DL most of them. Thank you.

:D!

[lurkmuch.livejournal.com]

Snagging a bunch of these. Awesome post. Thanks!

[grammarwoman]

Here from 14Valentines. Wonderful selection of music, thanks! I'm taking most of them.

[modillian.livejournal.com]

Here from 14valentines. These are lovely - Vive Edith Piaf!

[callmesandy.livejournal.com]

Yay music! thank you!